Rudan gave possibly the A-League's longest, and at times emotional, press conference as he reiterated his regret at leaving Wellington and his reasons for quitting.

The former Sydney FC skipper has been linked with a move to Melbourne new boys Western United for next season and his exit from Phoenix at the end of this season has been on the cards for months.

But he insisted he only made up his mind for sure last week...but admitted he'd known since January he couldn't keep up his double life with his family back in Australia.

His loneliness in Wellington and his wife's struggle to raise his family of teenage children by herself was proving too much to carry on, he said.

And he insisted he had yet to sign any deal for next season – and would not do so until Phoenix's season was over.

But he confessed he'd offered to quit last Friday after speculation over his future appeared to have derailed Wellington's tailend of the season when they went down 2-1 to Roar for two losses in a row.

In a 40 minute press conference, Rudan outlined in detail the reasons for his decisions and his regret at not being able to make it work.

"It puts a strain on your relationship - it really does," he said. "I'm tied here, but my family's over there and we had some tough, heated discussions about it all.

"We work hard at this football club and I go home alone. I don't go out. I'm home alone. You can WhatsApp, Skype, FaceTime as much as you want.

"But you know, there are moments where a dad's got to be a dad. A dad's got to be there and put his arm around his kids and be there for his family.

"And I've missed that. I don't want to miss that again."

The fact that his wife has had to deal single-handedly with his son's type 1 diabetes had played a major role in his thinking, he said.

He tried to put off the decision, but admitted he was only kidding himself.